Over the last few days, I have been taking part in the Three day Three Quote challenge.
People have really been responding to the emotions in my writings, and I wanted to put up the most heartfelt and emotional piece I have ever written. I want to show a side that some have seen but not many.
So the following is the speech I wrote for my wedding. I feel it’s appropriate since next week is my first wedding anniversary so I wanted to post this (obviously I have removed all names from the speech)
Afternoon distinguished guest, family, friends and anyone who has snuck in off the street to get out of the rain.
On behalf of my wife and I…, I would like to Thank you for coming today to take part in our special day. It means so much to both of us that you are here today. We know some of you have travelled a long way to be here to celebrate with us. So we hope that the today is enjoyable for you as it is special to us and we would also like to thank you for all your wonderfully generous gifts and cards.
You are about to witness a once in a lifetime event. This is the first and last time that I will be allowed to speak on behalf of myself and my wife. I tried to keep it short, but after this, I will probably never be allowed to speak again after this so I’m going for it.
There will be a few toasts throughout this speech so keep your glasses ready and don’t down it all on the first toast. Not looking for anyone, in particular, *cough* [sister] *cough*
According to tradition I’m supposed to tell you about how [wife], and I first met, but I’ve never been much of a traditionalist. So instead I’m going to tell you about the night I proposed to [wife].
Some of you know this story already and helped in the planning.
It was Easter weekend 2014 I had booked off the Thursday and Tuesday off to give myself a long weekend to propose.
I had it all planned out, and had been planning this for months. I was going to get up in the morning get ready for work as usual drop [Wife] off at her work as normal then go home and back to bed for a few hours, you have to get the priorities right. Then I was going to watch a bit of TV do some housework and then get the place ready. I had already told [Wife] that I was going out with people after work to a pub quiz so she would have to make her own way home. I had also planted the seeds for a few days before that the email at work had been acting up so I couldn’t email her like normal.
The plan was [Wife] gets home around Six PM to find the flat all set up, the hall lined with candles leading through to the bedroom where I would be waiting to ask her to marry me. Then we would go see the parents and go out for dinner to celebrate. It was a good plan.
Then two things went completely wrong with this plan. First of all, The night before on the way home from work [Wife] tells me that she is going to her mum and dad’s for dinner instead of coming straight home from work and didn’t know when she would be home.
I sat there quietly raging inside my head as she told me this and I couldn’t say anything other than ok.
Secondly, I had a dentist appointment that afternoon.
Let me ask you all a question who here has ever had to have a root canal?
That’s what I got that day. So I wasn’t having the best day so far.
So I’m sitting there in the bedroom waiting for her to come home my face half numb time keeps ticking away and it’s not until after Eight PM when I hear the door opening I sit up on the end of the bed and all I hear is [Wife] coming in opening the living room door into the hall and saying “What the hell is going on?” or words to that effect.
She walks through the house, I had lined the hall with tealight candles, to the bedroom.
I’m sitting on the end of the bed with the ring box in my hands. I can’t remember what I said to her before hand but when I started to ask if she would marry me I didn’t get the words out past “Will…” before I was tackled by a sobbing [Wife] wrapping her arms around me and saying yes.
After a few minutes she calmed down, and I remind her that I need to be able to breathe and that we need to let the cats out. Poor wee things had been locked away for a couple of hours.
Now that I think of it (look at [Wife]) I never actually asked you to marry me. Is it too late to run now?
First of all I would like to say thank you all again for coming today but unfortunately, it’s not been possible to have everyone we love here with us today, this is to those that couldn’t make it due to timings or distance or have sadly passed on, but we know they’re here with us in spirit, and they are not only in our thoughts today, but more importantly they are in our hearts, always. So, with them in mind, would you please all stand, raise your glasses, and join me in a toast to absent family & friends.
Secondly [Wife]’s parents I want to thank you for everything you have done helping with the wedding and raising your daughter to be the woman that I fell in love with. I will always be grateful for that. This is a special day for all of us, and I’d like to raise a glass to the two of you.
I would also like to thank my Mum and Dad for their help and support over the years. You should be proud that you raised an intelligent, witty, dashing, handsome son, but unfortunately, you raised me instead, so thanks for putting up with me. You have always been there for me giving me support, you are responsible for making me the man I am today (please don’t hold that against them) I wouldn’t be here without either of you. So again please raise your glasses to my Mum and Dad.
Next, the ushers, thank you for agreeing to be my ushers and for doing such a great job today. Making sure everyone got in and seated. Also, there is an unwritten rule that no one should look better than the bride and the groom at the wedding. I want to thank both of you for sticking to this tradition so thoroughly.
And of course who could forget the bridesmaids. My sisters you both look beautiful in your dresses and thank you so much for all the help today and agreeing to be [Wife]’s bridesmaids.
Please don’t cry yet. You will ruin the big finish.
[Sister] who would have ever thought that either one of us would wind up getting married?
This isn’t traditional, but I want to say thank you to my Gran and Granddad for always being there as well. They have been married for longer than anyone I know and if [Wife] and I are half as happy as you are when we get to that stage I’ll be a lucky man.
A long time ago, long before I met my wife, I asked my granddad how they have managed to stayed happily married for so long, and he told me the secret. It all boils down to two words “Yes, Dear” this is a piece of wisdom that has always stuck with me, and I will be using for the rest of my life.
I would also like to thank myself for remembering to turn up at the right place and time
Lastly and by no means least.
I want to thank my beautiful wife for agreeing to marry me. The moment I saw you walking down the aisle today, for the first time in my life, I was lost for words. I think everyone in here can agree that you look absolutely stunningly beautiful and I’m sure you are all wondering the same thing as I am ‘what the hell you are doing with me?’
A very good friend of mine once said to me “[Wife] is a very lucky woman to have a guy like you.” I’m here to tell you now they were wrong I’m the lucky one.
You are my best friend; I love you with all my heart. You have made such an impact on my life. I can’t imagine my life without you.
They say you don’t marry the woman you can live with, you marry the one you can live without and that’s exactly what I’ve done today.
I’m not the same person I was when we met seven long years ago.
I was a cold, bitter, hard-hearted, battered and broken shell of a man. I thought that I was completely incapable of loving anyone. Then you came along. I don’t know how you did it or what you seen in me, but you saw something, and you fixed me, it wasn’t easy, and it took a long time, but you made me whole again in a way that I never knew how much of me was missing before. I love you with all my heart, and I will always be here for you to love you and protect you.
The reason I fell in love with you is because you loved me when I couldn’t love myself.
So for the last time can you all please raise your glasses to my beautiful wife who has literally saved my life!